To put it quite bluntly, they don’t seem to exist.
Very little fantasy or even science fiction seems to address or even acknowledge the idea of gender-neutral pronouns or terms of address. I have seen a few instances in stories that present angels as masculine, feminine, or neuter, using “he” “she” or “se” (pronounced “SEH”). However, in most speculative fiction, the gender binary of male/female or masculine/feminine predominates. I understand why; English just doesn’t have a good system for addressing neutral genders. The only thing we have is “it” which is dehumanizing when applied in a social context. People I know who identify as gender neutral refer to themselves as “they” (which is a little awkward and confusing to me) or they use masculine pronouns because in English, when a gender is unknown, the masculine tends to be the default. I love Japanese honorifics because they can convey titles and respect without being tied to gender most of the time. I can also understand why a lot of older fantasy doesn’t go beyond two genders because authors and audiences either didn’t know about it or didn’t accept it; anything outside heterosexual relationships or traditional gender roles wasn’t readily acknowledged. (The first time I saw a homosexual character featured in print was in 2005 when I read the short story “Lord John and the Succubus” by Diana Gabaldon. I have yet to read a story featuring a gender neutral, asexual, or trans character,)
Luckily, we’re growing up a bit as a society and it would be nice to see the spectrum of gender and sexual identity recognized in fiction.
In English, we generally refer to someone as “he” or “she” based on what they look like. We have certain social and cultural codes that clue us in on whether someone identifies as male or female. But that line is becoming more blurred as women who identify as female adopt male clothing, men who identify as male adopt female clothing, and all the mixing-and-matching that occurs in between. For example, I dress in a mixture of male and female clothing but tend to favor male clothes because I find it more practical and more comfortable. But I identify as female in terms of gender, and as a demi- or Gray-A in terms of romance and sexuality. Would you be able to tell from my clothes that I want to be addressed as “she” or “Miss?” Maybe, but that isn’t certain. What if I actually identified as male and preferred to be called “him” or “Mister?” Again, there’s no way to know, and it’s a little rude and presumptuous to assign a gender without asking. But if acknowledging the gender spectrum is the norm in a society, a new method of addressing people respectfully without making presumptions about their gender identity would have to come about.
In my own fantasy world of Marina where my novel Ravens and Roses is set, I noticed my own gender bias with pronouns and wanted to rectify it. Mariners don’t have a history of misogyny; it just never came up in their culture. Women are equal to men and that’s it. Homosexuality and bisexuality aren’t a big deal. Trans-folk can be changed to their preferred gender with magic once they turn 20, which in Marina is the legal age of adulthood. I don’t know how common it is and it isn’t central to the story, but the fact that it happens and isn’t a big deal is important to the linguistic framework of Marina. Because they don’t make the same presumptions about gender that we currently do, there has to be a neutral form of address that isn’t as clunky as using “they” and without making male or female the default when you don’t know. To that end, I decided to adopt the terms “se” and “ser” (pronounced “SAIR”) and make up a few other terms of address to fill the gap.
The chart for pronouns and terms of address can be found below. For the sake of simplicity, I did not include the ubiquitous plural form “they/them/theirs,” so the Mariners have four gender pronouns: Masculine, Feminine, Neutral, and Neuter.
Neutral is the most respectful and is used when addressing someone for the first time, or when their gender identity is unknown. With nobility it’s a little easier to address them because when they reach adulthood, they register their title as Lord, Lady, or Laird and so on. When they are introduced at events, their title lets people know what gender pronoun to use. Neuter is used for inanimate objects, and therefore has no title.
It’s not perfect, and probably won’t come up much in Ravens and Roses itself, but I wanted to at least be aware of it and try to combat gender assumptions where I could. Maybe this chart or idea will help other writers where gender or sexuality play a larger role in their story. You can check out the Nonbinary Wikia and their list of pronouns for more ideas you can adopt in your speculative fiction.
What stories have you read where the issue of gender neutral pronouns was addressed, or at least mentioned? Please share in the comments below!